27 weeks

So it has come to this. Just feeling like a beached whale (LOL) most of the time, lounging around for free and having a free pass to drinking cold sweet drinks whenever I want just because I’m now much, much, more visibly pregnant. I also got my first offer to a reserved seat on the MRT a few days ago! Woohoo. 😛

I know this is probably just the beginning… I’ve had a very smooth 2nd trimester alhamdulillah. That sudden burst of energy around weeks 15-20 were soooo welcome after feeling like a lifeless vegetable during the 1st trimester. Then towards the end at weeks 25-26, the swollen feet, back pains, itchy tummy, etc etc just came full blast. Pregnancy really hits you in waves ; some moments you’re dancing on a cloud of euphoria and the next, you’re a sweating human wishing you had chosen to just stay home and curl up in bed all day. Oh well.

The mood swings have been there all right. I was none-the-wiser till my dear husband and siblings made comments like, “Eh, why so bitchy?” Hahahaha I’m mainly very grumpy towards my poor little nieces and nephews. Which doesn’t bode well for my own child, right? Hahaha.

All in all, I’m having a great time. Alhamdulillah. I still feel blessed every single day that we have a little one to call our own insyaAllah in a matter of a few months.

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20 weeks!

1. How many months are you? 5
2. Family’s Reaction? positive!
3. Do you know the sex? hahaha funny story. went in for the detailed scan a couple days ago… was soooo looking forward to finding out the sex (all the months leading up to this day), and baby REFUSED to uncross his/her legs! after 3 rounds of scanning on the same day and still the same thing. ohhh wells. i guess we’ll have to exercise patience.
4. Biggest craving? sweet stuff, milky drinks, at times spicy soups?
5. Best part of being pregnant? having a baby at the end of it all! oh and also feeling loved when my husband admires my growing bump. 🙂 🙂
6. Worst part of being pregnant? FIRST TRIMESTER NAUSEA! swollen feet! being overly hormonal and over-thinking. having to be 1000x more careful about everything. haha but nothing is worse than the nausea and vomitting for me.
7. Names picked out? we’re set on a name if it’s a girl (it’s a name we’ve thought of since before getting married LOL) … we have a few names up for debate for a boy 😉
8. Who will be with you during labor? my husband
9. Birth plan? we’ll think of one when i reach my 3rd tri!
10. Will you film it? no
11. Natural or Medicated? hahaha i think we’ll go for whichever. i’m not opposed to a medicated birth (i.e epidural) because both my sister and sister-in-law had those and didn’t have anything negative to say about them. i’m of course aware that a natural birth is what most would aim for.. but i’m flexible. as long as my anak comes out safe and happy, insyaAllah
12. Scared about labor? haha nervous and still full of questions, yes. scared? no. it’s part of what i’ve signed myself up for, no? 🙂
13. What do you look forward to after pregnancy? kissing my baby a thousand times everyday hahahah
14. Breastfeed? i’ll try insyaAllah
15. Plan to work or be a stay at home mom? will have to continue to work
16. Will you make your own baby food? hmmm seeing as to how i’m cooking for my husband and family almost everyday, i hope so. quite comfortable in the kitchen already. but of course things will change inevitably, so we’ll see.
17. Do you have nursery ideas/themes? no. we’re just using the spare bedroom which is like a guest bedroom/solat room/storage room hahahaha

dealing with morning (whole day) sickness

the term “morning sickness” really is a grave understatement of what i’ve been going through… the all-day nausea, vomitting, and general fatigue and tiredness (SO MUCH TIREDNESS!!!) has made me feel less of myself…

i’ve tried ginger tea, ginger ale, eating small and regular meals, but yeah. pretty much been puking every single morning before 7 am and i even pleaded with my doctor to write an excuse letter from an outdoor camp with my students.

i can’t help but feel unprepared, lonely, and emotional as i’m being isolated in this condition. thankfully my husband has been nothing short of amazing through this process. i just can’t wait for better days. insyaAllah.

T-3 days say whaaaat?

I’m going to my andaman for my final fitting later this afternoon! Cutting it very close in my opinion with 3 days left, but what to do when your kak andam is the one who set the appointment date? Hahahaha

I’m excited to try on my outfits and reeeeaaallly hopeful that there won’t be any glitches because at this point I’m unsure if any alterations can be done with such short notice?

Work wise, Term 1 is coming to an end and I’m just sighing a huge breath of relief because today marks the end of all teaching for Term 1! Tomorrow will be a school activity and Friday i’ll be on leave already heheheheh

I’ll be having my henna party on Friday, at the complimentary chalet at The Chevrons. Dinner will be catered (cooked by a family friend), and a night’s sleep… and that’s it!

Also, I had to change my henna artist like a week ago because there was no response from the vendor Zahra Bridal Henna… only after I sent her a strongly worded message expressing my disappointment and dissatisfaction, she replied me. She was kind enough to apologise and ask if I would like to continue, but I said no. Fortunately I was able to find a replacement, Iffa Henna.. so far I’ve been really pleased with the excellent customer service. Plus, I’m like knocking myself on the head for not checking her out earlier, cos she’s super talented??? Hehehe.

I’ll see if I’ll have time to update again. If not, I’ll see you guys on the other side 😉

Latest want/obsession – 90s/80s style studio shoot

I think the closer I am to the wedding date, the more itchy my fingers get… Idk if this is a blessing or a woe that most items on my to-do list have been checked off, such that my mind starts wandering to places that are daaaangerous for a close-to-broke bride-to-be like me.

Well this fervent obsession with the traditional songket kebaya started about 1 month ago when I realised, scrolling through more and more bridal companies on instagram and facebook, that I wouldn’t be wearing the traditional long songket kebaya for my wedding. In particular, I was looking at Versari Ade and Sqeen Bridal Couture‘s page and it struck me that the pieces I’ve chosen for my wedding are very modern. The modern songket dress-types… and I so yearned to wear at least ONE traditional piece for my big day, something like this;

It didn’t help that I kept on thinking and thinking of the kuning keramat (bright yellow) songket outfit that appealed so much to me. I can’t quite put my finger on why, but I think it’s a unique and underrated colour that many shy away from because they think it looks dated and “orbit” – I personally think yellow looks good on me and in line with the trope of “Raja/Permaisuri Sehari“, I learned that most Malaysian and Bruneian royalties would don the “kuning keramat” shades for their special events. Hehehe

So I surfaced the idea of renting 1 additional outfit from a bridal house to be worn on my Sunday event.. because we planned on only wearing 1 outfit from 2-5pm, and I’m thinking like omg so boring? Alas, the idea didn’t really sit well with my fiance because he imagined Sunday to be a veeeery lepak affair. I understand his point because Saturday would already be jam-packed from 11-4pm with 3 outfit changes. He didn’t want another round of stress for us. Plus when I enquired with the bridal house regarding rental costs, it came up to about an additional $500-$600. I had to be realistic and rid my mind of all these unnecessary wants. $500-$600 for only ONE outfit and pakai setakat 1 jam? And because my MUA is another person, it just does not make any economic sense to go forth with the idea.

When we managed to meet halfway and found a cool concept that both of us liked…

Well, as weeks went by, I realised that I STILL yearned to be able to wear something very traditional, and to remember it as part of our special day for the years to come… I stumbled upon some photos of the 80s/90s-style indoor studio photoshoot and fell in love. I’m talking the kind of wedding albums that your aunts/uncles used to have, with them wearing like 5-6 different outfits (like a Chinese, Indian, Arabian, Western, and finally perhaps 2 different Malay songket outfits) and posing in front of harsh studio lights with a plain studio backdrop.

This would be an ala-carte service that both fiance & I would be taking up as a post-wedding photoshoot. Orang buat pre-wedding, kita buat post-wedding. Hehehe. But we’d never planned to do pre-wedding because our families don’t practise it personally and it’s just not us to display pics of us in close proximity before we are halal.I think it’s a beautiful concept for those open to try, but we prefer doing it after the wedding stress is over. 😀

It’s a long-forgotten concept and service. I think it’s something that we don’t need but something we don’t mind investing some money in, because these are photos we feel that would bring back many memories of our first year together. Something that we would be able to put in an physical album and show our kids and grandkids in the future insyaAllah. And when else would we get the opportunity to feeling2 pengantin and bersolek2 and dress up if not now? (Not to say that our actual-day photography wouldn’t serve as memories. In fact, they do, but the focus would be on the majlis and not on US as a couple.) 

Some of the examples below, pictures credit to Versari Ade & Invogue Photography:

So right now I’m surveying service providers… if any of you have suggestions, do let me know of any contacts that are able to provide this service please!

T-25 Days

Say whaaaaaaaat?!

I’m definitely 90% excited, 10% jaded already. No feelings of anxiety yet. I think those feelings will rush in like 1 day before the wedding. I’m blessed to have a strong family always having my back. Just a few days ago I followed my parents from 9am-9pm just going round to relative’s houses to distribute the wedding cards. The guest list mostly comprises my parents’ relatives (aka people I don’t even know) hehe so it was nice to meet them and also to see my parents being so uber excited about it. Alhamdulillah.

My cards have been sent out a week ago… I think 4 weeks before the wedding was cutting it preeeetty short, but hey, most of my friends already knew I was getting married; the cards just serve as a reminder.

Sooner than later, this blog may be defunct! Hahahahaha.

Our ROMM Experience

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We went on a Friday, so after Friday prayers, we gathered there at about 2.15pm. When we reached the place, there was only 1 other family and they were queuing up in front of the queue-ticket machine. My mother, who used to work at MSF met a few of her ex-colleagues… and she was happily chatting and catching up with her friends and her friend actually told me to just queue up behind the machine. Even though the machine wasn’t issuing tickets yet because the system would only re-open exactly at 2.30pm, I queued up behind the family.

Well it was an extremely smooth process, alhamdulillah. First and foremost you need to show your documents to the counter lady when your queue no. is called.. after which you wait for your queue no. to be called for the 2nd time. Your wali is to go in first. My dad took about 8 minutes in, quite long.. I remember sitting next to my fiance and we were speculating on the questions the registrar would ask my dad hahahaha. But no problem la, I’m the youngest daughter and my dad has been through this process before so I know he was super chillax.

After awhile we heard the door click and we looked up to see my dad was standing at the door, beckoning BOTH my fiance and me together to go in. We were told on a few occasions that we were to go in separately so it was like a few seconds of confusion but when we went in, my fiance led the way and he greeted the registrar with a firm salam 🙂

When we walked in, most of our nervousness melted away because the registrar did NOT ask us ANY questions other than the obligatory confirmation of whether my dad was indeed my rightful wali, and if we were married before, so on and so forth. Basically thw questions are “yes or no” questions, and we were not asked any questions like “Have you attended any religious classes before?” and not even asked to furnish him with any details. For this, I was very pleased with the procedure. In a matter of 2 minutes we were asked to take the statutory declaration. Just raise your right hand and repeat after the registrar. 🙂 Very very very simple.

Right after we were done, I was busy snap chatting, and a few of my friends who were getting married soon were like bombarding me with questions “Eh how was it!!” hahaha I would like to reassure everyone that it’s really a total of 20 minutes from start to finish and not to worry or think about it too much. InsyaAllah.

 

PS – Oh and no, didn’t take the photo at the ROMM dais because my parents malas nak layan hahahahahaha plus there were some Chinese couples who just got married so they were having photoshoot there