About 3 months ago, I met my 3 close girlfriends separately to break the question to them, “Will you be my bridesmaid (please)?” Hahaha. It’s interesting because I met all 3 girls when I was in uni, but separately. 2 of them are from my university batch, and the other was from a different course but we met through a mutual friend, and we’ve remained close ever since.
I won’t lie, at first I wasn’t planning on having bridesmaids because I grew up in a family where bridesmaids/groomsmen were usually our own cousins… we come from a pretty large family.
Nearer to the date, I started toying with the idea of including my close girlfriends in my big day, due to sentimental and also practical reasons. There’s nothing better than celebrating life’s milestones with your close friends by your side, and I know that these specific girls that I’ve chosen to be my entourage are reliable and kind individuals who completely fit my criteria. Yay!
For practical reasons too, I realise that I’m actually the youngest girl in the family, and all my cousins have been married and most of them actually already have a few kids of their own. Doesn’t sit well with me to trouble them with bridesmaid duties when they have other bigger responsibilities to take care of. So yup, sad as it may sound, I’ve played bridesmaid (and even the pengiring/pengapit to 1 of my close cousins), but none of them are really free enough to be by my side on the wedding day.
For those who are still debating on whether or not you should have bridesmaids, and are seriously thinking of it because of these reasons:
- You have too many girlfriends from the same clique, like seriously 8-15 of them and you don’t wanna pick & choose [My suggestion is, take ALL of them, or none at all? If you have a close affiliation with say 2-3 of them, just pick the 2-3 and be transparent about it with the rest. I think the whole issue of not offending anyone still applies, but there are always better ways to go around it. I think honesty and practicality are the 2 main motivators here.]
- You want to involve family members first before your friends [My suggestion is, include both if you can. Maybe 1-2 of your sister(s)/cousin(s) and 1-2 of your closest friends. That way they can make new friends, and you can get the best of both worlds!]
- You have an idea of who you want to make your bridesmaids, but they don’t know each other! [That’s the issue I ran into! Think about it, if they are your chosen ones, they should be friendly and sociable people, right? These are the traits that will hopefully make them useful bridesmaids on your big day. They will need to interact with people, usher people, work directly with vendors, and generally be a pleasant person. If they possess the above mentioned qualities, I’m QUIIITE sure they’re open to working with your other friends, right? :)]
In my next post I’ll share about my bridesmaids’ outfits. Xoxo